Server is about LOVE.
Those with Server are patient, devoted, compassionate and caring. Deep, one-on-one connections are essential for them. They are triggered by insensitivity towards others and ensure everyone is honored; they can be fierce protectors. Servers that are not expressing well often do “tough love” instead; they are often enmeshed, overly sensitive, caretaking martyrs who drain others’ energy. More mature Servers have learned to love and accept themselves first and foremost, which allows them to deeply radiate unconditional and abundant love to others.
The Lessons of the Server Talent are shown below:
In Lessons 1 & 2, Servers are mean, manipulative martyrs. They don’t know how to receive love themselves. They are bitter. Others haven’t loved them, and they’ve either given up or they believe that they need to sacrifice themselves to get anything back. Instead of being about love, sometimes they are about hate. They reach out to care-take others merely to manipulate them, to force them to connect. Often they don’t realize they are doing this. They feel scared that if they don’t, that they’ll really be alone. They make themselves martyrs. And of course, this approach and attitude only further sends people away. They can easily get caught in a downward spiral. They feel their own pain, and sometimes the pain of others, deeply in their hearts.
In Lesson 3 & 4, Servers are learning to love themselves. In addition to caring for others, they care for themselves too. They protect underdogs, and they empower underdogs to care for themselves. Because they now honor themselves, they are able to truly honor others. They see the good in everyone and spaciously forgive mistakes. They tend to be empathic, noticing who is in pain or is not getting their needs met. They deeply connect with all living creatures: people, animals and event plants. They value beauty of life, just as it is, now.
In Lesson 4, Servers know how to deeply care for themselves, and they do this abundantly. They practice and demonstrate intimacy and deep connection with everyone they meet. Because they love themselves first (they put on their own “oxygen mask” first), they are able to truly unconditionally love others. They are humble, often not wanting any recognition for their contributions.